Hey, my friend, welcome to my blog! Today's topic is abou thow to use a dildo as a virgin.
There's no judgment here, only warm embraces and understanding. As a veteran in the adult toy industry with over ten years of experience, I want to share with you a topic that's often on many girls' minds - the dildo.
Will using a dildo make me lose my virginity? Will a medical checkup reveal it?
Many girls have such concerns, thinking that once they use a dildo, it's like breaking some mysterious seal of virginity, and they're also worried that a doctor might notice during a medical checkup. But honey, I'm here to tell you that gynecologists really don't care about this! Modern medicine has long updated its understanding. The hymen is actually a perforated tissue. Just think about it, if the hymen were completely closed, how would menstrual blood flow out? As long as you use a dildo of the right size and follow the correct usage method, it's entirely possible that no obvious tears will occur. Even if there are some minor changes due to use, so what? No one has ever stipulated that a virgin must have a so-called "factory setting certificate". Every body is unique and has its own story. Don't let these outdated notions hold you back from exploring yourself.
Can using a dildo ruin future intimate experiences?
This claim is completely baseless and has long been refuted by scientific research. A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2019 showed that women who are familiar with their erogenous zones are more likely to achieve orgasm during sexual activity. It's like practicing the basic skills before learning to dance, mastering body coordination and rhythm, so that when you actually perform on stage, you can definitely perform better. Understanding your own body and exploring your sensitive areas is actually giving a boost to your future intimate relationships, making the interaction between you and your partner more harmonious and wonderful. So, boldly explore, this is an important step towards sexual happiness.
Only those who are dissatisfied with their sexual desires need artificial dildoses?
Stop! Don't think like that. Self-exploration is as natural as learning to draw. It's a way for us to understand and express ourselves. A survey by Harvard University shows that 63% of Generation Z women have tried a dildo before their first sexual experience. This has nothing to do with "unfulfilled desires". It's simply about experiencing the feeling of controlling one's own pleasure, just like cooking by oneself and enjoying the taste of food prepared according to one's own taste. Everyone has the right to explore their own body and discover those little secrets that bring them joy. This is a perfectly normal thing.
How do virgins choose a dildo?
Size is not the issue; the material of the dildo is the key! A must-have for beginners: the safe choice. For virgins who are trying a dildo for the first time, choosing the right product is of vital importance. First of all, it should be clear that size is not the most crucial factor; material is the key. It is recommended to choose a dildo with a diameter of no more than 3 cm, which is roughly the thickness of a banana and is more likely to be accepted by the body, without causing too much pressure during the first experience. A length of around 10 to 15 cm is sufficient. Don't underestimate this length; leaving some leeway is safer. A dildo that is too short may not meet the needs, but one that is too long can cause discomfort or even injury. It is essential to ensure that the material is medical-grade silicone and to check for the FDA certification mark. Medical-grade silicone is non-toxic, odorless, soft, and skin-friendly, causing minimal irritation to the body and ensuring the highest level of safety and comfort during use.
What should be noted when choosing a sex toy?
A dildo that provide stimulation through temperature changes can be difficult for beginners to precisely control the temperature, and if not careful, they may become too hot or too cold, causing unnecessary harm to the body. Although egg-shaped vibrators look cute and are small and portable, their vibration frequency and intensity may be difficult for beginners to control. When used for the first time, the strong vibration may cause tension and discomfort in the body, ruining the original pleasant experience. Highly realistic sex toys may cause greater psychological pressure to virgins, as their overly realistic appearance may cause psychological resistance and unease. For the first try, it is better to choose some products with relatively simple designs and less realistic shapes.
Which dildos are recommended?
LELA Sila has a super friendly C-shaped design. Its unique curvature can perfectly fit the female body curve and precisely stimulate the sensitive areas, bringing users an unprecedented pleasure experience. Je Joue Dua is made of dual-density silicone, feeling as soft and comfortable as being wrapped in a cloud. This special material not only provides a gentle touch but also offers just the right support and stimulation during use. The Chinese newcomer "Yuelu" has a ring base, which is very easy to control. For girls using a dildo for the first time, being able to hold and operate it easily is very important, and this design of "Yuelu" perfectly solves this problem, making your self-exploration process more effortless.
What are the full processes from opening the package to post-use care?
When you excitedly receive your package, the unboxing ceremony should not be taken lightly.
1. Use alcohol wipes to disinfect the sex toy thoroughly, but be careful not to soak it in alcohol, as this can damage the surface coating and affect its performance and lifespan.
2. Also, make sure to trim your nails and remove any dead skin. This is not a random request; long or sharp nails can easily scratch you or damage the toy during use. Prepare two clean towels, one white to lay on the bed for a clean and comfortable environment, and one dark for emergencies. Foreplay is more important than the actual act for a perfect self-exploration experience. Taking a 30-minute aromatherapy bath is a great choice.
3. The combination of lavender and sweet orange essential oils is simply amazing. The soothing scent of lavender can help you relax and relieve tension, while sweet orange essential oil brings a refreshing and pleasant feeling, making your mood more relaxed. While taking a bath, play some mellow erotic music, such as songs by Clairo or Troye Sivan, to create a romantic and relaxing atmosphere. Additionally, I highly recommend watching "Sex Education" Season 3 Episode
4. This episode is a textbook-level sex education demonstration that can help you better understand your body and sexual responses.
The choice of lubricant is also an art. Different types of lubricants are suitable for different scenarios and needs. Water-based lubricants are perfect for the exploration stage. They are refreshing and easy to clean, but they have a relatively short-lasting effect and need to be reapplied as needed. Silicone-based lubricants are known for their long-lasting and smooth texture, providing prolonged lubrication. However, be careful not to mix them with silicone toys, as this can cause a chemical reaction and damage the toy. Cooling lubricants are for advanced players only. They provide a refreshing and stimulating sensation, adding a unique touch to the experience. But for beginners, this intense stimulation might be too much, so it's better to start with basic lubricants.
What are the post-use rituals?
Sing "Let It Go" while rinsing with warm water. Don't laugh; this is a great stress reliever. After using a dildo, sing this song loudly while rinsing it with warm water. It will help you relax both physically and mentally, leaving all your tension and fatigue behind. After cleaning, use a dedicated disinfectant spray to disinfect a dildo. This can effectively kill bacteria and viruses, ensuring safety for the next use. But never use boiling water, as high temperatures can deform the toy and shorten its lifespan. Keep a sex diary. This is a great habit. Record details such as angles, speed, and lubricant amount during use. It can help you better understand your body's reactions and make adjustments for a more perfect experience next time.
Is it normal to feel pain?
A slight pressure sensation during the first use of a sex toy is normal, as it's your body's reaction to something new. But if you experience persistent stinging pain, stop immediately. Before using it, explore your body's terrain with a mirror and your fingers to understand your body structure and sensitive areas. This can help you avoid pain and discomfort.
What if my roommate finds out?
If your roommate discovers it, just say you're doing research for a school project. This is a common excuse and usually works. If they persist, offer to share the experience with them. Who knows, they might be interested too. If your roommate accidentally discovers your little secret, don't panic. "Fitness foam roller accessories" can always be a universal excuse. Or you can search for "Cyberpunk decorations" on Amazon and buy a moon-shaped ornament to hide the dildo.inside. It's both beautiful and discreet, and it will definitely deceive your roommate's eyes.
Conclusion
In short, sex is a natural and beautiful part of our lives, and exploring it is an important way for us to understand and love ourselves. I hope every girl who reads this article can bravely take the first step in self-exploration and embrace her own happy sex life. Remember, you are unique, and your body deserves to be treated gently. Be bold to explore and enjoy it!If you have any suggestions or ideas, you can comment in the comment section or send me a private message.
